A Beginners Guide to Pegging

What it is and why you should try it

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Pegging is an exciting sexual practice which is picking up pace. Sure, it’s been around for thousands of years but the specific term was coined more recently in 2001 by Dan Savage in his sex advice column. Since then, a rapidly increasing number of couples have been eager to try pegging out. Amongst exciting discussion and a rise in sales — Lovehoney sales of strap-ons increased by nearly 200% in 2016 and have continued at a steady rate since then — there’s a growing intrigue that can only be satisfied by experimentation.

Don’t worry if you don’t know what pegging is. 45% of couples didn’t know what it meant either. And to be honest, I didn’t have a clue until a year ago. I heard the term everywhere but felt too embarrassed to ask for a definition.

Let’s jump right in. Pegging is when a woman penetrates a man anally with a strap on dildo. Not only does it offer physical pleasure for the guy, but there’s a whole load of emotional joy to explore too.

“According to sex therapist and author of She Comes First Ian Kerner, PhD, the psychological pleasures of pegging rival (and possibly transcend) the physical pleasures.”

So, exactly which psychological pleasures can you look forward to when engaging in this novel sexual practice?

It will bring out your dominant side

Pegging offers a unique opportunity to become the giver. Typically, a heterosexual woman will spend her whole sexual life receiving. Whether vaginal or anal, receiving is a submissive and often vulnerable act.

There’s little chance to take control.

Sure, there’s cowgirl and oral sex but they can only offer some control. What about total domination? No more compromising. Pegging is the ultimate way. So, strap on a dildo and truly dominate your significant other. While they enjoy intense physical pleasure via the prostate, you can enjoy the emotional high of being in control.

One woman, Eve, agrees. She told Marie Claire that she loved pegging because she liked the power, “I get a kick out of introducing a guy to something he hasn’t considered before and then watching his reaction as he realises he’s into it. I guess the power of female-on-male anal sex comes with the role reversal, for both parties.”

Role reversal is a powerful way to understand your partner more deeply, experience a whole other side of your sex life together and spice things up between the sheets.

It could increase levels of trust between you

It’s wonderful to share fantasies and sexual preferences with the person you love, especially if you've not felt confident enough to discuss them with anyone before. As Elisha explains, “(My boyfriend) had gone his whole adult life thinking he’d never get to share this side of himself, so trusting me with those fantasies has brought us closer.”

By introducing a different element into your sex life, you change perspectives and see things from your partner’s point of view. This helps you to understand each other and brings you closer.

Plus, it takes trust to try out new things together. Trust is an essential part of both a successful sex life and a happy romantic life. Pegging will increase your trust and deepen your romantic bond. With a deepened bond, sex can be more pleasurable.

It will spice things up

There’s nothing better than a novel experience to mix things up and keep the spark in your relationship alive. As Ian Kerner, PhD, explains, “the novelty of a woman wearing a penis can be a massive turn on for a man. Plus, novelty stimulates dopamine transmission, a neurotransmitter that plays a big role in sexual excitement and arousal.”

And the best part? More sexual excitement and arousal could make it easier to relax, immerse yourself in the moment and fully enjoy the orgasms coming your way. It’s all too easy to get stuck in a monotonous routine sexually and stay within your comfort zone as a couple. So, why not introduce pegging and see where it takes you?

By switching roles, exploring your dominant side and experimenting together, you could increase your levels of trust and arousal. And the best part? By discussing your sexual preferences and opening up, you heighten levels of intimacy in your relationship, thus making it easier to share your deepest desires in the future.

So, the physical pleasure of pegging is only the beginning. Get ready for a world of joy from all sides. Open your mind to the many advantages and see your sex life from a new perspective. It’s time to give pegging a shot and see where it will take you both romantically, and sexually.