Can Edging Give You Multiple Orgasms?

Does deferring pleasure give you more pleasure?

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Let’s start with a basic definition of edging. Edging is when a person is brought close to an orgasm but stopped before they manage to get there. This is done on purpose, repeatedly, to amplify the pleasure a person will eventually feel when an orgasm is reached.

As Rebecca Reid explains, “the increased blood flow and sensitivity in a person’s genitals makes for a more dramatic orgasm, as well as the psychological aspect of wanting what you can’t have.”

So, is edging a way to achieve multiple orgasms? By deferring the pleasure and practising self-control are you ultimately achieving the deepest bliss of all?

There’s a lot of talk about multiple orgasms. And it seems it’s not just talk. “A 2017 online survey of 1,250 women in the United Kingdom found that 70% reported experiencing multiple orgasms at least once.”

70% of women reaching the lofty heights of multi-orgasmic pleasure is pretty impressive. But one study in Finland had wildly different results, “8 to 15 percent of vulva owners have experienced multiple orgasms.”

That’s a big difference. And whether 8% or 70% of women have experienced multiple orgasms, we still need to learn more. So, it’s time to talk tactics. Does edging encourage multiple orgasms?

The short answer is no. Deferring pleasure does indeed give you more pleasure but more in terms of intensity, not quantity. So, you can expect a deeper and more intense orgasm as a result of edging but not necessarily multiple orgasms.

So, how do you edge successfully? And can anyone learn how?

Begin alone

The good news is, anyone can learn how to edge. And the best way to practice is alone. Masturbating gives you total control of your body and sensations. Start by closely observing how it feels when you bring your body to the brink of an orgasm and then back again.

Some people may repeat this process one or two times, while others love to keep going and going… and going. When you’re finally ready to let go and orgasm you may experience a more intense rush of pleasure or a climax that lasts longer.

However, it can take time to know exactly when to stop edging and let yourself orgasm. Sometimes “delaying your orgasm might lead to something called a half or disappearing orgasm. When this happens, you may not feel the full-body effects of orgasm, like vaginal contractions, or feel like you’re getting right to the edge but never actually reach orgasm, even when you’re ready.”

A half or disappearing orgasm is nothing to worry about. It’s simply part of the edging process. The more you explore your body and experiment with delaying your orgasm, the more information you’ll collect about yourself. You’ll learn how your body responds and what different techniques you prefer.

Create the ideal environment

Whether you begin your exploration of edging alone or with a partner, it’s important to set the scene. A 2017 study showed “sexual satisfaction and maintenance of passion were higher among people who… incorporated more variety of sexual acts, mood setting, and sexual communication.”

The right mood encourages the mind to prepare for sex. It helps you relax and sets the scene for a sensual experience together. It also helps you to slow down and savour every moment. So, whether you turn the music up high, get the candles out or choose some silk bedding, make an effort together to create a sexy atmosphere. Edging can bring you closer as a couple and help you to learn about your response to pleasure.

Try squeezing or ballooning

So, what about men? Edging has many benefits for a guy. Edging was used as a treatment for premature ejaculation as early as 1956 and can help increase self-control. Here are two popular techniques to try when edging:

1. Bring yourself close to an orgasm and then squeeze the head of your penis to stop yourself from climaxing. After 30 seconds or so, you can begin stimulating yourself again.
   

2. Try ballooning. This is where you focus on one sensitive area of your penis and nowhere else. Rub gently until you’re fully erect, stop just before you orgasm, wait until your penis softens slightly and then begin again. You can repeat this process as many times as you like.

By stopping yourself from orgasming you’re experimenting with self-control. You closely observe how your body responds when you push it to the brink of a climax and then back again. It’s like a masterclass in personal pleasure.

Takeaway

Edging is one of the many wonderful ways to experiment during masturbation or sex. It can teach you more than you would ever expect about your body. You’ll learn how your body responds when it’s seconds away from orgasm and you’ll observe the journey from stimulation, to near orgasm to back down and up again to the height of pleasure.

It’s your very own sexual rollercoaster. And when the times comes to let go completely, the exhilaration and intensified pleasure will be totally worth the wait.