Four Reasons Why Findom is The Ultimate Turn On for Many People

It’s not just about the money

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Findom is an abbreviation for financial domination. It’s a fetish that has attracted a lot of passionate debate across the internet. It’s all about financial power, submission and domination. It’s part of the varied world of BDSM (bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism).

To put it simply, findom is the act of giving money or gifts to a dominant person. Usually, all transactions and interactions occur online. It is an act of domination that a lot of submissives consider as the ultimate turn on.

As Mistress Harley in Cosmopolitan explains, “a submissive person may find it sexually arousing to be dominated financially and vice versa. Findom usually occurs online without ever meeting in real life.”

So, what’s the turn-on of having your wallet emptied or draining someone’s bank account? Surely, it’s daylight robbery masqueraded as a fetish. The win is only ever with the person receiving the money and not with the person who’s left penniless. Countless documentaries and online discussions agree. They have described financial domination as an inhumane activity that takes advantage of vulnerable people.

Interestingly, the BDSM world would beg to differ. Many adults thrive during financial domination and receive intense sexual gratification. So, let’s address the myths of findom and discuss the genuine reasons why it can make you feel super horny.

It’s a sign of devotion

Imagine trusting someone so much you’re happy to give them all your money. You want nothing in return. You feel wholly satisfied knowing your money has given them pleasure. You are so devoted, you will give this person money without question. You wholeheartedly submit to any request they have.

Mistress Harley explains, “financial submissives enjoy knowing that they are sacrificing their own resources for the pleasure and betterment of someone they perceive to be their Superior.”

Dropping all thoughts of yourself can be liberating. Focusing totally on pleasing a dominatrix who rewards you when you submit to them is surprisingly gratifying. Perhaps, it’s our need to please as humans? Or the straight lines of the situation. Everyone knows where they stand. It works because a roleplay is diligently kept up between two people in which one gives without question and the other dominates, demands and rewards.

There are clear lines and expectations

These clear lines create a refreshing change from the complexities of life. In reality, there’s always something to worry about or someone to look after. While, in findom all is forgotten. All that exists is an intense bond between two people, an unspoken agreement in which one person will submit and the other will dominate.

There is nothing else to think about.

All other expectations fall away. You’re locked in a reliable dynamic which can bring a strong feeling of safety. Rarely, in the real world, does everything fall into place so simply. It’s the ultimate form of escapism. And one which you will find uniquely gratifying.

Gender roles are flipped

Usually, in findom, the submissive is the man. This role reversal switches society’s expectations on its head. As Mistress Harley explains, “so many women are raised to believe that it’s their job to please a man and that if a man spends money on them, then they owe that man something. But with findom I don’t have to give anything back in return. For me, it’s the ultimate power exchange.”

As a dominatrix, it can feel empowering to be dismissive. You don’t have to feel grateful, be polite or worry about your submissive’s response. The power is in your hands and the money you receive is often given with no expectation of anything in return. The submissive is turned on by the specific act of giving money or having their financial situation managed by you.

It’s a pure form of submission

Findom is pure in terms of it’s straight lines. There’s no switching between being a sub or dom. The power dynamic is clearly established. A person submits all to their dominatrix financially. Some submissives enjoy giving small gifts of money, some prefer one-off gifts, while others want to relinquish total control of their bank account.

Baring yourself to another submissively is a pure act because you leave yourself exposed. You give everything — financially and emotionally. You trust your submission will be met with the clear lines of a dominant. You have a pact which is kept at all times, no matter what.

So, perhaps, the turn on of findom is in the purity and bravery it takes to give yourself to another financially. In this world money is valued as one of the most important elements of life. When a person is willing to hand over control of that essential element, they truly are submitting, dropping all responsibility, and living in a one-dimensional world where only themselves and their dominant live. And that is both a terrifying and beautiful concept.