How to Deliver Mindblowing Oral Sex

It starts in the mind

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You can learn a lot about a blowjob by sucking your favourite lollipop. Seriously. Imagine all that passion, salvia and pleasure. The enthusiastic licking of candy can be converted successfully into an award-winning blowjob for sure.

But, what about oral sex for women? Can the same techniques be applied? Let’s delve deep into the pleasures of both and see how easy it is to become oral sex experts.

Keep it wet and wild

The wetter the better, especially when blowjobs are concerned. It turns out guys love a messy blowjob. Cosmopolitan spoke to porn superstar Chanel Preston, who defined a messy blowjob as “one which uses a lot of spit.” She also said, “some people are afraid to use a lot of spit because it feels messy, but there is something very sexy about getting all messy and gross during sex.”

This comes down to personal opinion for sure. But in general, the more saliva the better. It acts as lubrication, mimics the feel of a wet vagina and creates excitement. After all, who wants a dry squeaky blowjob with no passion or lubrication?

So, can we apply the same technique for cunnilingus? Well, with one study revealing 17% of women do not enjoy oral sex at all, it’s more of a challenging area to master. In fact, too much wetness can be a turn off for some women. While men need the lubrication from saliva to make a blowjob run smoothly (literally), a woman has her own lubrication and adding more can get too much.

One woman said, “the sheer amount of wetness (during oral sex) just freaks me out. I’d prefer a focus on my clit with the tongue then a full-frontal wet snogging style with the mouth.” So, with specific preferences out in the open here, the best thing you can do is discuss beforehand. When in doubt, ask. The only way you’ll know for sure is to talk about it first.

Get handsy

It’s time to put those hands to good work. Hands can work beautifully in blowjobs and cunnilingus. By adding a hand job to the great work of your mouth you amplify the stimulation. It also gives oral sex itself more direction. Have you ever felt lost while delivering a blowjob? In need of more things to do to mix it up?

Hands are the solution. By getting your hands involved you not only max out the pleasure for your partner, but you give your aching jaw a rest and create a contrast between the firmness of your hand and the softness of your mouth.

In terms of oral sex for women, a finger or two can work wonders. A finger creates a welcome change from the tongue and allows more focus on the clit. One woman explains, “I really start getting into oral sex when my husband starts fingering and rubbing my clit while he uses his tongue too. I need the thrusting and the licking to really orgasm, and feeling him inside of me reminds me of him being inside of me and gets me turned on.”

Use your imagination

Imagine the cock is an ice pop (stick with me here). This encourages you to make noises of enjoyment. These noises translate into little pleasurable vibrations for your partner. And while you don’t have to imagine your partner’s cock is a Magnum every time you give a blowjob, it can be fun. It reminds you to truly connect to the moment and forget any trivial side thoughts.

Because, there’s nothing worse than closing your eyes to enjoy sweet pleasure, while your partner stifles a yawn and watches the clock, hoping you’ll orgasm soon. Being in sync and feeling passionate together is everything.

And the same goes for oral sex for women. If you’re ready to use your tongue, go all-in with enthusiasm and really enjoy the sensations you experience and the pleasure you deliver to your partner. The more you imagine their pleasure, the more in-tune you will feel to their responses.

Welcome all tips

Hey, guess what? It’s not a mind-reading act. If you’re stuck making guesses and feel totally clueless, then stop. No more. Find time to ask your partner what they prefer. Talking about sex and preferences can be a fun way to do foreplay. You’ll slowly get into the mood while learning what each other likes and dislikes.

After all, no one wins any points by being a mind-reader. And there’s too many variations on personal choice and desires, to get it right every time anyway. While general tips can be helpful, there’s no size fits all. So, talking will always win. It’s the only chance you’ll get at a clear insight into your partner’s mind.

Above all, passion and communication are crucial. By feeling enthusiastic about the pleasure your mouth can deliver, you’re already 80% of the way there. And the final 20% of mind-blowing oral sex? Well, that all comes from communication. A little specific sex talk goes a long way.

So, get learning what your partner prefers and increase your intimacy together in the process. Before you know it, you’ll be an oral sex pro.