Who’s Your Daddy — Understanding The Daddy Kink And Why it’s Sexy

What’s the reason behind the turn on?

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There’s a lot of different kinks out there, from foot fetishes to voyeurism. However, perhaps one of the most taboo areas is the daddy kink. It’s a topic people find too weird to discuss and downright offensive. But, what if I threw a curveball in there and said the daddy kink isn’t as weird as you think. A lot of it’s appeal comes from sexual preferences most people can relate to. It has more to do with power play and taboo, than being a daddy. In fact, for a lot of people, the daddy kink has zero to do with daddies. And it’s a surprisingly popular fetish too. “According to PornHub’s analytic team, women are actually 96 percent more likely to search for “dad” and “daddy” compared to men”.

There’s lot of reasons why a person might enjoy calling a sexual partner daddy. For some, the taboo nature of the kink gets them going. As NYGal explains, “taboos are a person’s way of acting in a way they would not normally act in society. It’s a way to ‘let go’ and do something socially unacceptable. The rebellious mindset behind this reflects the feelings we embraced as teenagers by sneaking out of the house, going to parties, and meeting up with partners unchaperoned.”

It’s fun to feel naughty. It’s fun to shock people. The thrill of being naughty can be a wonderful addition to the bedroom. And so, the daddy kink can be a perfect experimentation. However, for others, it’s more about being looked after. It offers a feeling of protection and support.

Sex and couples therapist, Dr. Margaret Squires, explains, “I think that when that language comes up, it’s just as likely to be in a healthy relationship. You’re getting back to very early warm attachments... Sometimes people are merely recognizing a pattern in their relationship. That’s why we have relationships, so we can rely on each other. It’s not necessary for everyone to be equally strong in all things.”

Often people who find the daddy vibe a turn on, feel aroused because they enjoy the power dynamic. Sure, it’s about being looked after, but it’s also about submitting to another person and completely trusting that person.

It’s about a strong dominant force. It’s not about the man being a daddy or not. The use of the title, “daddy” gives power to the man. It puts the woman in a submissive role and that’s the turn on. Daddy is simply the name used to signify this dominance. And since 64% of women have fantasised about being dominated, it’s safe to say the daddy kink will be a lot more popular than people like to admit.

Bethy Squires reports, “the general consensus on Reddit was that women call their partners “daddy” because they are into submitting to male authority figures. “Sir/Master just doesn’t have that same affectionate tone to it, know what I mean?” says one redditor. “Some girls want to call their man daddy in a way that has nothing to do with their father but as a way that communicates she is submissive to your masculinity,” says another.”

So, it’s not about the specific word. It’s about the power the word denotes. Calling a guy daddy is an announcement of submission. It encourages dominance in sex. It gives the guy permission to take control and make the rules in the bedroom.

It’s a delicious escape of everyday responsibility. The word daddy brings freedom. It allows the shackles of adult responsibility to be loosened (even if only for a few hours). The art of dominance and submission is a wonderful area to explore in an intimate and loving relationship. It takes a lot of trust and respect, but it delivers deep satisfaction.

Plus, sharing kinks and getting honest with each other sexually, comes with many rewards. It increases your bond and encourages you to trust more deeply. Discussing personal preferences and exploring new sexual areas is a wonderful experience. It enables you to open your mind and change your perspective.

And don’t forget, your desires may change overtime, so if you or your partner fancy the daddy kink, then grab the chance while you can. Revel in the taboo, enjoy the dominance and hopefully you’ll experience a whole lot of pleasure in the process.